Facing Your Fears With Courage
So what exactly is courage? I like the definition proposed by Susan Jeffers in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. She says,
“True courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to move through it, regardless of your feelings”.
We all have our own set of techniques and ideas for dealing with our fears. Some people are more courageous than others; we inherit our fears from our cultural background, from our home and work life, from schools, from our friends and teachers. Feelings of vulnerability, being judged or ridiculed may also unconsciously lead us to hides our fears.
Some people are very courageous and able to face their fears and do it anyway. They lead successful and enjoyable lives. หนังโรแมนติก On the flip side, people who fear taking risks, of taking a risk to start a business or go back to school, may lead unfulfilling, sub-fulfilling and even painful lives. You can create your own experience and experience has no equal. You have the ability, innately, to change your own paradigm.
Imagine you are standing on a 30 feet wide and 1 foot deep chasm. The only way you can find freedom is to step back, breadth up the other side, turn around and start again. The time is now.AVindingeryour fears, fears that were created by our culture, our parents and the limitations we all have been taught.
What do you do? Most of us also have limiting beliefs; we have been taught not to make big decisions and may fear the blame or criticism that comes from making choices. เย็ดหีกระป๋อง When choosing such a risky project, do you communicate such a damaging message to yourself? Does that reinforce your fears or is it a necessary self- safety measure, used to stay comfortable?
The words are easy. Complaining, blaming, giving up, procrastinating or hiding or spinning a story do not, in the long-run, block your success. The simple truth is we need to forgive ourselves for what we have not accomplished, for the risks we have taken, for the fear that Did not Backfire. The feeling of failure, of defeat is uncomfortable, hard to bear, limiting our options at hand. But it is a reaction that leads to exactly what we do not want:apathy, fear, bad expectations, a lack of courage, giving up on ourselves.
Communicating to ourselves and others that Do Not Want What We Want is the nurturance, the love and the healing that allows us to take a brave step toward change and growth. หนังต่อสู้ The first step is to let go of fear and the limiting belief of who we are and what we deserve in life. This paradigm change, once understood and accepted is the foundation needed to direct our thoughts and actions in the direction we desire to go.
We have all heard that, “The combined effects of our thoughts and feelingscontrol our lives.” It sounds simple, but we most often overlook the most important part of that statement:right living. In my life many of us have heard this multiple times and have either tried, or not tried, it.
Here is an example:
Last summer a friend of mine was going to a three day, eight persons, weekend retreat. There were two types of attendees: the ‘proven leaders’ and the group of ‘experts’. I dropped in on a couple of days before the retreat. My intention for that weekend was to just jump in and hear how I could best serve being an ‘expert’. I asked my friend that evening, “Why would you want to go to this retreat?’ She looked up at me with an puzzled expression, and said, “I have never gone to a retreat before and I certainly haven’t thought about how I would serve the betterment of others.” I guess it would be safe to say she was not convinced. วัยรุ่นไทย If she is a coach or a therapist, then it would be easy to say 99% of us have this kind of commitment or mindset.
Back to my story. I was shocked at how easy it is to fall into typical traits of the society that I live in and have accepted. The expert group could easily go on and have a receptive, loving, caring conversation with themselves as to how one serves others that opens the door to a deeper connection with that group. เด็กไทยใจแตก The ‘proven leaders’, while also are capable of these kinds of thoughts, what often makes them stand out in my mind is that they will speak up and be an example of the type of leader/ parent/ spouse they expect from their children without really thinking about it. They could of course become adults with all the responsibilities of leadership, but most of us have accepted such attitudes, or at least decided to surrender them to our unconscious mind; it is unconsciousness that loves that we surrender our power to.